My husband and I have been married for 15 blessed years now. During that time period we have spent many hours fishing together….sometimes by ourselves, and sometimes with our kids. Is fishing my favorite thing to do? No. Yet, there are several reasons why I have learned to enjoy it more. One of the things that attracted him to me is that I grew up fishing in my grandparents ponds. My Dad was an avid fisherman, and I even had my own pole. I enjoyed the catching, but not the baiting and the waiting.
In a healthy relationship you need to spend quality time together. When we were dating we would do the usual date nights such as dinner or a movie. Fishing was a way that we could get away from everything and enjoy the uninterrupted conversation. When dating you have so much to talk about and you can learn a lot from a guy by watching how he fishes. I observed his intent to detail and I shared in his excitement when he hooked one and reeled it in. I certainly learned that he was a patient man, since he stopped fishing often to help me with the worms and taking the fish off the hook. Ha! Now I do most of that myself.
Each person finds something in their life that relaxes them. For my husband, that is fishing. When he is stressed with work, he can take a break and cart the canoe to a pond or lake for some quiet time. He always comes back a happier guy…..unless “the big one got away”.
Over the years I have learned a lot about fishing from him (more than I ever wanted to). We have spent hours shopping at BassPro Shops and watching fishing videos on YouTube. He has always shared his love of fishing with our kids, and they enjoy going with him. My son caught his first fish on a Spiderman pole when he was about two. Fishing provides a source of enjoyment for all of us.
I must admit that fishing is more fun for me now, as my skills have greatly improved! These are the two biggest fish that I have ever caught – a catfish weighing in at 7 pounds and a 5 pound bass. It was so much fun to reel them in all by myself, and he was there being my cheerleader!!
Enjoying God’s beautiful creation is another reason that I enjoy fishing. We can sit in a chair on the shore or in the canoe and listen to the bullfrogs and crickets. It’s beautiful if we are there during a sunrise or a sunset. It’s a reminder of how great our God is and how He provides for our needs.
My children would tell me that the best part of fishing would be eating them, and I would tend to agree. He brings them home, cleans them, and fries them up with an incredibly yummy homemade breading. We never have leftovers.
So….if your guy has a hobby that he enjoys and he wants you to share it with him, give it an honest try. The time spent and memories made are invaluable!